Kay Poyer
Kay Poyer | |
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| Born | August 14, 2000 |
| Substack information | |
| Newsletter | |
| Notes | @ladymisskay |
| Years active | 2024–Present |
| Subscribers | 39 thousand |
| TikTok information | |
| Page | |
| Years active | 2021–Present |
| Followers | 998 thousand |
Kayla Poyer (born August 18, 2000),[1] known online as LadyMissKay, is an American internet personality and writer. She first gained attention in 2022 making TikTok videos.[2][3] She created and co-hosted the podcast Meat Bus, and publishes writing on her Substack The Quiet Part.[2]
Early life and career
[edit]Poyer was born on August 18th 2000, and grew up in Dallas, Texas, having moved there when she was seven years old.[4] She first began posting on TikTok in 2019 due to boredom during the Covid-19 lockdown.[5] Her videos began to gain popularity in 2022, with her most viral video featuring Poyer giving comedic advice against restrictive eating,[2] stating:
“You need to eat. It’s about food. It’s about fats. It’s about oils and omega 3s. Three meals a day and two snacks and a dessert if you’re nasty. If you’re kinky. That’s what it’s about.”[6]
Dazed praised Poyer as a "skilled storyteller and comedian with a tender edge,"[7] while Dallas Observer called her "an entertainer: sharp, hilarious, interesting and unapologetically opinionated."[8] Poyer has described the style of her TikToks as "being real even when it's bitchy,"[9] and an alternative to the "therapised advice" often offered to young women.[7]
Poyer was included in Dazed's "Dazed 100 2024",[9] Rolling Stone's "25 Most Influential Creators of 2025,"[3] and as "Best Comedy TikTokker" in the Dallas Observer's "Best of Dallas 2025".[10] She was on Mashable's "Mashable 101" list for 2026.[11]
Poyer's popularity online spurred her to create the podcast Meat Bus with her then-boyfriend. The podcast ended when the couple broke-up.[12] She also began publishing writing on her Substack The Quiet Part, which features a mix of fiction and non-fiction pieces.[13]
Poyer has been a guest on podcasts, including So True with Caleb Hearon,[14] The Comment Section with Drew Afualo,[15] StraightioLab,[16] Upstairs Neighbors,[17] Girls Rewatch,[18] and Seeking Derangements.[19] She has also appeared as a guest contestant on the internet game show Interior Motives.[20]
Poyer is active within the New York City queer scene. In 2025 she was a guest judge at Twinks vs. Dolls, an annual wrestling competition held during NYC's Pride weekend.[21] She has also hosted numerous nightlife events, including Essence's Affairs party in 2024.[22]
Personal life
[edit]In both videos and interviews, Poyer has been open about her experience as a transgender woman. She has spoken about being HIV positive, and has been vocal about her support for Palestine.[4] She advocates for women's and LGBT rights with a focus on the rights of Black trans women[22] and of queer people living in Republican states.[13] She dislikes the label 'activist', which she believes has been "flattened" by its use on the internet, stating that activism constitutes much more than talking about sociopolitical issues online.[8]
Poyer has previously expressed interest in beauty and perfume,[7] horror movies and antiquing,[23] and video games such as World of Warcraft and Skyrim.[24]
References
[edit]- ↑ ladymisskay_ (Aug 18, 2024). "Happy birthday tew me". TikTok. Retrieved Jul 1, 2026.
- 1 2 3 Wilkins, Alea (2024-05-20). "Lady Miss Kay is the lifestyle coach you've always needed". INTO. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- 1 2 Lorenz, Steff; Garber-Paul,Jeff Ihaz, Elizabeth; Ihaza, Jeff; Jones, CT; Klee, Miles (2025-08-26). "25 Most Influential Creators of 2025". Rolling Stone. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- 1 2 White, Valerie (2024-11-14). "Kay Poyer Might Be Dallas' Coolest Influencer". Dallas Observer. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ Rawlings, Adam Saraswati (2023-08-02). "Meet TikTok's Powerhouse Gamer Girl". The New Feminist. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ ladymisskay_ (Dec 8, 2022). "T girl wisdom". TikTok. Retrieved 2026-07-01.
- 1 2 3 Dazed (2024-01-04). "T girl wisdom: Kay Wow shares her beauty affirmations for 2024". Dazed. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- 1 2 White, Valerie (2024-11-14). "Kay Poyer Might Be Dallas' Coolest Influencer". Dallas Observer. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- 1 2 Dazed. "Dazed 100 US 2024: celebrating creativity in fashion, music and more | Dazed". www.dazeddigital.com. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ "Best Unconventional Art Space | Nature of Things | Dallas City Guide for Entertainment, Shopping, Dining and More". Dallas Observer. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ "The Mashable 101: Creators and Influencers Who Defined 2026". Mashable. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ Connellan, Shannon (2026-06-02). "Kay Poyer keeps it real on TikTok. That's why the internet loves her". Mashable. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- 1 2 "Kay Poyer believes in the horror of intimacy". House House Magazine. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ So True with Caleb Hearon (2026-06-18). Kay Poyer is a Good Customer. Retrieved 2026-07-02 – via YouTube.
- ↑ drewafualo (Jan 8, 2025). "if being annoying was a crime??? take us away fr!!!". TikTok. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ ""Hookup Culture" w/ Kay Poyer - StraightioLab". omny.fm. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ Upstairs Neighbors Podcast (2025-01-01). The Jack Wrap is Back w/ Kay Poyer!! | Ep 46 w/ Dom & Maya. Retrieved 2026-07-02 – via YouTube.
- ↑ Girls Rewatch Podcast (2026-05-19). Sex and the City S1E12: "Oh Come All Ye Faithful" with Kay Poyer | Girls Rewatch Podcast. Retrieved 2026-07-02 – via YouTube.
- ↑ "Seeking Derangements (@SSDERANGEMENTSS) on X". X (formerly Twitter). Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ Interior Motives (2025-08-07). #7 with Kay Poyer and Patrick Doran. Retrieved 2026-07-02 – via YouTube.
- ↑ Hess, Tobias (2025-07-01). "Inside Twinks vs. Dolls: Total Carnage". PAPER Magazine. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- 1 2 Poyer, Kay (2026-03-09). "Essence in Conversation With Kay Poyer for PAPER Magazine". PAPER Magazine. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ "Kay Poyer". The Newsette. 2023-11-17. Retrieved 2026-07-02.
- ↑ Rawlings, Adam Saraswati (2023-08-02). "Meet TikTok's Powerhouse Gamer Girl". The New Feminist. Retrieved 2026-07-02.